SEEK PEACE. WHEREVER AND WHATEVER IT MAY BE. IN SOLITUDE. IN COMPANY. IN SILENCE. IN NOISE. IN EXERCISE. IN STILLNESS. YOUR PEACE MAY CHANGE EVERY DAY. AND THAT’S OKAY. IT’S YOURS AFTER ALL. MAN ALIVE | LEARNING THE ART OF LIVING WELL

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WHAT SHALL I BE WHEN I GROW UP?

“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” – Woody Allen  Life’s weird. To some degree, you have to have a plan, but, aside from numerical ageing, very few aspects of life are linear enough to rely on as truly determinable. I decided I wanted to work in public relations when […]

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DIFFERENT THAN BEFORE: RELUCTANT ADVICE FOR THE BEREAVED

I started writing about grief almost as soon as it came into my life six and a half years ago. My 33-year-old wife was struck and killed by a speeding car; our son had just turned two. The whole incident drew a lot of attention. I suppose through writing about it so openly, I did […]

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SAYING SOMETHING ABOUT BETTER MENTAL HEALTH

I noticed that it was Mental Health Awareness Week while poking around online the other day. It’s been hard not to notice, in fact. That in itself, I believe, is amazing progress. I remember when I was writing my book about grief in 2013, I had a conversation with my editor about whether or not […]

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LIVING LOSS AND THE IMAGINARY HIERARCHY OF GRIEF

I once wrote that grief is not a competition, and that if it were, there would be no winners anyway. But there is often an imagined hierarchy of grief. For some of us, it’s somewhat self imposed. For others, it is imposed upon us. When my wife died, I felt a certain sense of guilt […]

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SEEING THE WORLD DIFFERENTLY

I love to write. The act of stitching words together to create order out of the often chaotic thoughts in my head really helps my mind to focus and extricate itself from my immediate surroundings. But recently I began to notice that it was no longer quite enough. I started to wonder whether I needed […]

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Are taste buds the key to better sleep?

I’ve noticed a lot of stories about sleep in the media over the last couple of weeks. Having suffered extended periods of insomnia over the years, I always pay special attention to anything that can teach me more about the art of nodding off. The theme of the articles I read this week was quite […]

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POPPADOMS FOR BREAKFAST: THE PERILS OF THE WORKING-FROM-HOME DIET

A few days ago I stumbled across a trashy story about a woman in the States who gained forty pounds during her first year of working from home. If I’d bothered to delve deeper than the headline and look beyond the picture of a striking, slim woman who had no doubt since shifted the weight […]

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TOXIC MEDITATION: LEARNING MINDFULNESS THE MARLBORO WAY

The company I work for recently instigated an ongoing wellness programme for all of its employees. At first this notion really made me chuckle. We work in PR, which is something of a late night industry, and the idea of ‘healthy living’ most often presents itself as a series of tactical and fashionable cures to […]

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WRITING THE FUTURE

I used to really hate the job interview question: Where do you see yourself in five years’ time? I think maybe it was because I was more comfortable living in the moment than getting stressed out by the thought of having to work really, really hard to fulfill whatever ambition I shared. If I actually […]

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I’M GOING TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I TRY TO WRITE MYSELF FULFILLED AND I’M GOING TO ENJOY LEARNING THE ART OF LIVING WELL. MAN ALIVE | LEARNING THE ART OF LIVING WELL

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TALKING BOLLOCKS AT THE BARBERSHOP

I went for a haircut last week and got chatting to my regular barber, Joe. He’d had a pretty dramatic chop himself, apparently for his sister’s wedding over the summer. ‘Yeah, I took one for the team,’ he explained. I smiled at the thought of a man who cuts hair for a living still being […]

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